Sometimes, writers can be their own worst critics, which makes it harder to accept compliments. We appreciate the validation—we just have a hard time acknowledging it! And if you’re a bit introverted (as many writers are), you may feel awkward or put on the spot when someone says something nice about your writing or your book. After all the hours of writing, rewriting, proofreading, and navigating the many steps of self-publishing, how do you achieve the right balance of gratitude and humility when someone compliments your work? The etiquette experts at Self-Publishing Relief have put together a few suggestions to help you accept praise for your self-published book.

How To Graciously Accept Praise For Your Self-Published Book

Of course, the easiest way to accept a compliment is with a simple, genuine “thank you.” But there are a few well-worded phrases you can also include to accept praise with grace and without being dismissive of the person offering you the kind words.

“That’s what I was going for.” When readers mention your self-published book made them feel a certain way, thank them and let them know that’s what you were going for! You might even elaborate on how you used your writing to draw a desired response from the reader.

“I love hearing your interpretation.” Writing is an art form, which often means that the messages in our work are open to interpretation. It’s not important whether you agree or disagree with their version. Letting readers know you enjoy hearing their interpretations shows that you recognize and appreciate the intelligence they bring when reading your writing.

“I am so glad you enjoyed it.” This one is heartfelt. It lets the reader know you value their readership and opens the conversation to talk about the passion behind your work.

“Hearing from my readers always inspires me.” When you self-publish your novel, memoir, or self-help book, you usually don’t have a publishing team or editors to turn to for feedback. Letting readers know that their comments inspire you will encourage them to continue sharing their insights and to speak more in depth about your writing.

“I really appreciate you telling me this.” Share your gratitude with any readers who compliment your writing: Remember, they may be introverts too! Sincerely acknowledge the effort they made to communicate how your writing impacted them.

When someone gives your book a compliment, don’t brush it aside—accept it as the gift it was meant to be! You put in the hard work of writing and self-publishing your book, so you definitely deserve kudos for your efforts.

If the thought of having to handle all the technical work of self-publishing makes you break into a cold sweat, you can thank your lucky stars—Self-Publishing Relief is here to help! We’ll guide you every step of the way so you can have a finished book you can be proud to put your name on. Check out some of the happy words and gratitude from our clients, and schedule your free consultation today!

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